TweetBeen a few days since i’ve posted anything, but a friend of mine on Twitter, @taylahmaid, wrote me a note telling me that She was not feeling her sissy lately.  In fact, she went on to say that she was kind of out of the scene all together. Wasn’t sure why and she said that perhaps i could use this topic for a blog update. Perhaps, she said i could write about how to get back into the scene. So i thought about it for a little while now, because i really like Taylah, and wanted to thoughtfully approach this subject in such a way that perhaps it would help her and others with the same feelings.

One thing she mentioned specifically, was that she did not really have a Domme in her life, and in fact she had only limited contact with Dominant Women and had never been “owned” for any lengthly periods. That statement stuck out a little and it seems a good place to start. sissies should be aware of who they are, themselves, and where they are coming from within their own history. Being a sissy and being owned, or more to the point being submissive, are two unrelated things.  Just because one likes wearing feminine clothing, likes soft silk caressing their skin, or the feelings associated with being feminine does not necessarily mean one is transgendered. Being transgendered, of course, is a subject in and of itself. My point being that those feelings, in and of themselves d not make a person submissive. Tere are all kinds of submissive men, and women for that matter, that are not interested in cross dressing or are they transgendered. They live their lives as they were born, in the gender they were born with, but are submissive. It took me a long time to work through my issues in this regard.

With me, for example, even though i have not gone out and got implants, although i probably should do that, i am probably transgendered. Or at least have the feeling that i might be. i feel like at heart i am female, but that is not a subject that can be wrapped up in a few short sentences. Therefore, i don’t need someone to “force” me to drew act that way. i know who i am.But i absolutely love women and everything about them. The way they dress, obviously, the feminine things they do, that not only define them as Women, but that they all seem to like to do to make feel more feminine.

Lastly, a bit of sensible advice. So not pick, if You are looking for a Dominant soul in your life, someone for whom you are not up to the task. When i attempted to get Goddess Nikki’s attention, i knew She was experienced and didn’t have a lot of time to train someone right from scratch. But i had been trained to a certain extent already. Se was able to take me from that point and further train me to be an aid to Her in Her daily life. Both in terms of service an to keep Her amused. Perhaps a good way to start is with a site that shows the profiles of many Dominant Females, such as allfemdomemes. Another site, We Whip Ass, is on the opposite side of the spectrum. The Dominant Ladies on that site are no-nonsense Ladies in the traditional sense. And lastly, but far from least, is the Dominant soul who did my original training and is the maker of the Exobelt chastity that i wear, Lady Jennifer Anderson. She can be contacted at http://www.exobelt.com  With dedication and a realistic and serious attempt, one can find, if that is one’s calling, the Dominant Lady that turns dreams into reality.